lim’s thread
Flirting on Twitter 🧵
(why you feel weird about it, and why you’re right)
(+ how to for cis guys)
1️⃣ Don’t.
When you don’t think of it as flirting, while doing everything you would otherwise, it is kind and kingly.
Screw flirting. Just flirt.
📜 Why you feel weird about flirting—There’s tightness. You want to execute this thing.
Why this helps—There’s . You’re not trying to do this thing.
Why you’re right about the weirdness—you have a need. This isn’t bad. It just means women are on high-alert interacting with you.
Interacting with someone who needs to you validate them isn’t so fun.
https://twitter.com/AskYatharth/status/1326226430057979905?s=20
2️⃣ Engage in public first.
@ them with a question.
Guys have this need for private attention. Public interaction don’t feel like they count.
So attached to the form of a DM, they miss out on noticing the depth of a public interaction, that it is still an interaction between two people, you and them.
Understand that public interactions can carry just as much depth.
Take @visakanv replies.
He swoops in and out. He cultivates a certain depth, all in public.
https://twitter.com/AskYatharth/status/1330563793487708160?s=20
Guys spend this times, either cringe-sending, or searching for ways to get a response, because they just want—need—that private attention. Public interaction isn’t enough.
Escape the cold box of a DM and join the public fray.
📜 Why you feel weird about DMing—because you’re not focused on the interaction and depth of it. You want the form of the DM attention.
Why this works—brings you to notice the depth, helps them feel safer, not angling in DMs but an engagement in the forums.
These are practice instructions, not rules.
There’s cases where they’re wrong. Cases where you do just want to flirt. Cases where you do just DM.
Take these
3️⃣ You ceded judgment. Be with the pain.